I’m rereading The Kite Runner for one of my classes, and this quote/idea particularly struck me:
When you kill a man, you steal a life. You steal his wife’s right to a husband, rob his children of a father. When you tell a lie, you steal someone’s right to the truth. When you cheat, you steal the right to fairness.
As I read, I had to think of how true and striking these words are, how powerful. For those of you who’ve read the book, I’m sure you remember this part, and for those of you who haven’t, I highly suggest picking up a copy. You won’t regret it.
A lot of the times when I feel like I’ve been wronged, it comes from a sense of loss, of losing what I had, or losing what could have been. It’s not always people who are to blame, and sometimes it’s even harder that way. I don’t like to blame God, to be angry with Him, to question His ways, to question why He takes away (forgetting how generously He gives). The difference with God is that it’s all His for the taking. The good Lord gives and he taketh away, as the old saying goes.
I got to thinking that maybe this is why theft is such a sin. Because this world isn’t really our own, because it all belongs to God. We belong to Him, and that’s why we have to respect one another.
When we think of human rights violations, they are variations on the theme of theft. Lives are stolen. Families are broken and pieces are stolen. Peace of mind is stolen. When you rape someone, you steal their sense of trust. You steal their comfort in their body. You steal their self-respect. You steal their sense of having control or power, even over their own self. You steal their dignity. When you enslave someone, you steal their freedom. You steal their humanity. You steal their agency. You steal their identity. You steal their self-respect as well. When you stereotype or discriminate against someone, you steal their unique identity, you chip away at their humanity. You have robbed them of their equality, by labeling them as “other,” with the often understood implication of “lesser.”
It is the variations upon theft that steal intangible things from people that are the worst, the most unjust, the hardest to repair. Over my spring break, I went on a service trip to New Orleans, and we focused much of our discussion on the idea of restorative justice, which challenges me greatly. I look at these crimes, and I search for possible, meaningful, sources of restoration. My gut feeling is that nothing could make them better, because nothing can bring back what was taken.
You cannot un-rape or un-murder someone. You cannot bring back life once you have taken it away. You cannot give back lost time. You cannot easily rebuild a sense of trust that has been destroyed or damaged, it will always be tainted. It doesn’t always have to be a big thing, but the little sins are thefts in their own ways, and I think that it’s important to pause and think before we speak or act, lest we unintentionally rob someone of what they deserve, and then face a situation with damage we cannot repair. Once things are broken, they’re never exactly the same after, no matter how well they appear to be put back together. Brokenness transforms us all.
I’ve been learning to see the world in a different way lately, which has in turn led me to try to refocus on God for direction. Four years in college (give or take), and I feel more lost than when I began. I also feel far more ignorant. There is so much to know in this world, and so little time to learn it. But there is also so much history that I am blind to, that I have never been taught (as intentional as I’m sure that was). But I cherish my right to the truth, to knowledge, and I know that there are people around the world who wish their truth were heard. Ignorance terrifies me, embarrasses me. I want to know what I do not. I want to seek truth and stories and knowledge. I want to keep learning. .
I can think of only one source of restoration, and that’s God, and in that, I can even feel a sense that justice still exists. I am grateful for where my brokenness has brought me, where my losses have turned to gains (both literally and metaphorically). I am not the same as I was before, but I am so happy with the person that I am now. I thank God each day for all He has given me, after everything that had been taken away.
I would love to hear other people’s reactions to this quote, thoughts about it, etc! Please comment and share with me!